Aldus Huxley once said that your conscious mind is nothing more than a reducing valve. There is so much information for us to take in it is almost a prerequisite for sanity that we develop methods of screening out the unimportant.
The senses send an overwhelming flood of information to the brain, which the brain then filters down to a trickle it can manage for the purpose of survival in a highly competitive world.
We have become the Kings and Queens of prejudgment. Prejudgment is so insidious that we become to be bored with everything because we have prejudged everything. We have seen it all.
The reality is that we have actually experienced very little.
We are categorizing everything, putting a label on things so as not to experience anything thing fully. If something does not have a name it does not exist.
We measure and analyze which only taps the surfaces and we mistake that for reality.
Your conscious mind is the ultimate fake news.
To those who are CEOs and Business owners, please suspend your need to add value to every conversation. Sometimes people just want to be heard. A response is not always needed.
The responses and the need to add value are usually judgments. Judgments keep us stuck in the very thing we want to change. Judgments are labels.
We especially judge ourselves. Everyone has an opinion. Many people believe they are paid (or should be paid) for their opinions, whether we want them or not.
DON'T ASSUME YOU KNOW OTHER'S INTENTIONS
When we make judgments of others it is because we believe we know what others are thinking and feeling.
That is simply their story. We assume that everybody judges us, abuses us, victimizes us, and blames us the way we do to ourselves. As a result we reject ourselves before others have the chance to reject us.
When you live your life by the opinions of others, you are letting people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out.
When we are affected by the opinions of others, we go to self judgment. We close the space for learning because judgements disconnect us from having a beginner's mind. They keep us from being able to understand our own experiences because we become locked into a rigid pattern of perception.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate clearly to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama.
This is when we personalize everything. Nothing that others do is about you.
It's usually their projection of their own self judgment onto you.
It comes across as their judgment of you. First we must heal those places we have been judging in ourselves as bad or wrong. When we stop judging ourselves we then become immune to the opinions and actions of others. You will no longer be the victim of needless suffering.
Judgments are stories that keep recreating the experiences involved with those judgements.
All judgments reside in our mind. And they get stuck as stories. This is why certain personalities get in the way of working together.
Remove the judgment and become the observer. See things as patterns.
Patterns are in the present. Patterns show your the path for all possibilities.
Judgments have power to limit your possibilities.
Judgments always have a perpetrator and a victim.
It is the Victim identity that keeps us stuck in the very pattern we want to change. Since the most powerful pull in human nature is to be consistent with who we think we are, when we self judge, our unconscious mind seeks congruency or consistency with the identity of being a Victim.
Break the pattern. Suspend the need to judge. Take a breath and leave your mind. Stay in the body and stop over thinking. Please subscribe to our blog
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